Dear fellow therapists,
As I approach my last year in my 40s, I find myself taking stock of the journey so far—both personally and professionally. December brings my birthday and the reminder that, like the sun setting on my 40s, another chapter is about to begin. As therapists, we dedicate our lives to guiding others, but we often need our own moments of reflection, celebration, and introspection.
Here are a few thoughts I’ve gathered over the years that I’d like to share with fellow therapists, especially those also navigating milestone moments:
1. Self-Compassion is Essential at Every Age
Over the years, I’ve seen how crucial self-compassion is in both life and therapy work. Each decade brings its own lessons, its own versions of success and setbacks. Now, as I near the end of my 40s, I’m more aware than ever that self-compassion allows us to hold space for our own vulnerabilities—something that strengthens our capacity to do the same for clients.
Therapist Tip: The self-compassion we practice can set a model for our clients. The more we grant it to ourselves, the easier it becomes to help others lean into their own kindness.
2. Therapists Need Therapy, Too
Early in my career, I held a strong sense of invincibility, thinking I could "figure it all out" on my own. But life—especially as we progress through it—teaches us that we, too, need the support we offer to others. As I enter this new decade, therapy has become a sacred space for my own growth and self-awareness.
Therapist Tip: Investing in your own therapeutic journey is an investment in the quality of support you provide to your clients. Seek a therapist who understands your journey, and don’t be afraid to prioritize this time for yourself.
3. Embracing Change as a Constant
My 40s have taught me that life’s most persistent lesson is change, and the older we get, the more profound this truth becomes. I remind myself and my clients that change is a doorway to growth. As therapists, we have the gift of guiding others through transitions—let's not forget to welcome our own.
Therapist Tip: Growth is not just an outcome but an ongoing process. Revisit your values, let go of what no longer serves, and embrace the changes that keep you growing.
4. Passing Wisdom Forward
This birthday is not just a celebration of another year but an opportunity to reflect on what I want to carry forward and what I want to pass on. Being in our 40s and beyond brings an appreciation for wisdom as a gift to share, rather than keep for ourselves.
Therapist Tip: Consider what wisdom you’d like to share with newer therapists or clients and how you might support those who look to you for guidance.
Reflecting on the Journey Ahead
As the sun begins to set on my 40s, I’m reminded that each sunset gives way to a sunrise, and there’s so much to look forward to. I hope these reflections serve as a gentle reminder to all therapists—especially those of us entering new phases of life—to continue nurturing our own growth.
Wishing you all wellness and growth,
Jinia
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